Wedding and Mini Family Getaway

After a long and stressful weekend, I couldn't wait to leave Kapit albeit with a heavy heart because of the unstable patients I left behind.

Took Ethan on his 9th express boat ride out of Kapit, 9th AirAsia flight from Sibu to KL and his first ERL ride back home. He was an angel throughout the flight. He slept without making a big huha, eats his own food and played with us before he fell asleep again. Well, happy mood during day time comes with bad mood at night. He cried to sleep and woke up a few times throughout the first night back in KL.

One of the things I secretly anticipating for was durian. I know well enough that my father in law will definitely get durian to eat with us when we are back. True enough, we had so much durian that we had to forgo our dinner. Like father like son, Ethan devoured the durian we offered him and he really liked it a lot. So much that when we removed the durian from his mouth, he started crying. A true Malaysian is born!

The main reason we were back in KL was for Wai Kit and Carine's wedding.

Solemnisation and Exchange of Vows, IN CHINESE. Well done Carine!

No love story has touched me as much as Wai Kit and Carine's. I teared a lil when Wai Kit told his part of the story how Carine took care of him when he was in the ICU and how Carine was asking people to pray for Wai Kit when he was badly injured from a motorcycle accident. A walking miracle and faith. Had a great time catching up with Inn Shan and Yee Ling together with the ex-Kapit people during the wedding dinner.

Attended DUMC live at home on Sunday as Ps Daniel preached on Acts 2. The rest of the day was just resting at home and did some windows shopping in MV before having dinner with mom.

The most painful part of this trip is to leave behind Angel and Ethan in KL as I travelled back to Kapit alone. I alway enjoy travelling alone. But this time I miss Ethan moving about in my arms during the flight. I miss him putting his slimy finger all around my face before wiping his face full of saliva on my shirt. I miss hugging him.

As I will be back in Kapit alone preparing for my exams in September, I can rest assure that Angel will take really good care of Ethan. Cannot ask for a more capable wife like Angel.

Counting my blessings.

Rude

Rude sung by Magic was stuck in my brain for quite some time now. But today I am not talking about how a father rejecting a guy from marrying his daughter.

Rude is when you do not silent your phone in a meeting. Worse is when you yourself are hosting a meeting and suddenly your phone blast into life, you pick it up as and speak loudly, ignoring the people around you. 

The phone call you picked up in situation like this better be something about finding the missing 42 billion ringgit or re-reshuffling back the cabinet. Else I would expect one to respect what is actually happening around you. 

I find it very annoying when people do not silent their phone during a formal discussion or teaching. Well unless you are expecting a call or it is an emergency, phone calls can wait. It is common sense and manners. But i guess people do not care about manners nowadays. 

WikiHow shall teach us some Cell Phone Etiquette here.

1

The First Principle: It is not other people's responsibility to cope with your mobile phone use; it is your responsibility to use your mobile phone inoffensively. Please note that "inoffensively" is not defined by what you expect others to tolerate, but by what others do in fact find offensive. Ignore this principle, and you are sure to be rude.

See the word RUDE there?!

2

Following directly from the First Principle: You should assume that someone who asks you to turn your cell phone (or audio player) down or off is in good faith, and you should comply in good faith. They have a reason for asking, and it's probably not that they're trying to dominate you or hassle you or restrict your God-given right to free expression. (For example, people with temporal lobe epilepsy may find that certain sounds trigger seizures, and some people have neurosensory issues that cause extraneous noise to be a severe difficulty rather than a mild annoyance.)

No, no, no. Some people just think that they are more important and there is no need to listen to others. RUDE

3

Stay away from others while talking on the phone. If possible, keep a 10-foot (3 meter) distance between you and anyone else whenever you talk on your phone. Most people do not want to hear what you're talking about.

4

Try not to talk on the phone in any enclosed spaces, even if you're more than 10 feet away from anyone. They can still hear you (because it's an enclosed space) and usually, they're forced to just sit there and listen (and maybe be annoyed to some extent).

5

Don't talk too loudly. Generally you don't have to shout in the microphone to be heard on the other end. In fact, doing so often makes it harder for you to be understood. In addition, shouting on the phone disrupts people around you.

6

Don't put your phone on speaker. Just as many people do not want to hear your end of the conversation, they don't want to hear the other person's either.

But to some, they hope others will learn that they are so busy and hence important, so the whole world should witness the conversation over the phone. Again, RUDE

7

Do not talk about personal details in public. Personal is just that: personal. If callers want to talk about personal details, tell them that you will call them back later, move someplace where you can have a little privacy, or switch to text messaging.

8

Don't multi-task. Avoid making calls while driving, shopping, banking, waiting in line, or doing almost anything that involves interacting with other human beings. In some situations it puts your life and the lives of others in danger, and in other situations it can bother some people.

9

Know where not to use your phone. Some places are inappropriate for cell phone usage, so avoid talking on your cell phone or having it ring while in the following places:

• Bathrooms
• Elevators
• Hospitals
• Waiting rooms
• Restaurants
• Auditoriums
• Taxicabs
• Buses
• Trains
• Meetings
• Libraries
• Museums
• Places of worship
• School
• Lectures
• Live performances
• Funerals
• Weddings
• Movie theaters
• While visiting relatives
• Turn your phone off at any time that you are asked to when on a plane.
• Or, in fact, anywhere else where people are likely to be disturbed, unless it is important and you can't go anywhere.

10

Don't use your phone when having a meal with someone. Ideally, you should turn it off entirely. If you're anticipating an important call, let the person you're with know beforehand that you're expecting a call that you'll need to take. No matter what, don't hold a conversation at the table; step away, follow step 1, and don't stay away any longer than you would for a bathroom break. Never text at the table, even if the face-to-face conversation dies down. It will be seen as disrespectful.

11

Turn off your phone at the movie theater. Even if your phone is on vibrate, people can hear it during quiet parts of the movie. The light from your phone's screen is also very distracting. Don't check the time, don't check your text messages; just turn it off until the movie is over. If you get an important call that you must answer, exit the theatre before taking it.

12

Learn to text. When you're in an enclosed space, or you can't put yourself 10 feet out of everyone's way, it's inappropriate to talk but it's potentially acceptable to receive and send text messages. In such cases, keep the following rules of texting etiquette in mind:

• Use the vibrate feature instead of an audible text alert.
• Only text when you're standing still or sitting and out of anyone's way. Don't text while you walk or drive.
• Don't text while doing anything that requires you to be attentive, such as waiting at an intersection for the pedestrian signal.
• Don't text while at a meeting or conference. You should give the speaker your undivided attention.
• Limit phone use during gatherings with your friends. Some friends (with or without cell phones) will find it annoying and inconsiderate.
• Avoid sending others text messages containing anything that you would not say in real life. It is very hard to convey tones and sarcasm in texting and email, so realize that some things may come across as sounding unusual or offensive. Never send a message with sexual overtones, or one that could be construed as a threat.

I hope people learn manners. Enough of ranting.